There is no loss really as we are all one in Spirit. The essence of Life that animates us is eternal. We simply transform or transition from beings of form to being beyond form.  This is beautiful. It is reassuring. And it does not fill the hole created when someone we love dearly moves beyond form.  Our hearts become heavy and sometimes feel closed and compressed.  We may ache for the physical form which we have associated with the responsive, loving mind we cherish.  So, how then do we heal the hole? 

Allowing is the most vital aspect of any form of growth or healing.  If we plant a seed in the ground, it would not make sense to cover the ground so tightly that the emerging plant cannot break through.  Allowing ourselves to feel the sadness and pain are key to the ultimate healing.

We may dress a physical wound to protect it from unhealthy bacteria, but the dressing must be able to breathe, to let air in.  In our emotional healing we provide protection by loving ourselves enough to say no to what doesn’t serve us and yes to those things that bring us joy.  Healthy boundaries that honor our own healing process will promote the growth of a new sense of balance and wholeness.

The healing of a physical wound occurs because new cells grow and replace the injured ones. The process is not instant.  It is a process.  Cells grow a little at a time.  One day at a time as we heal from loss, new ways of being will unfold. We will be offered opportunities to reinvent ourselves.  New people may enter our lives – if we let them.  Old friends may take on a different role in our lives – if we let them.  And new ideas, activities, and opportunities will rise to the surface like new cells pushing their way toward the outer edges of our skin.  Pay attention to these. Listen for what calls to you, inspires you and feeds you.  Just as the one you love has taken on a new and invisible form, you too are taking on a new form and a new way of being.  One day at a time, love yourself. One day at a time be kind to yourself. One day at a time allow yourself to grow and be the next and beautiful expression of who you are and who you’ve come here to be. Namaste’

© 2017. Rev. Eileen DeRosia Patra

Rev. Patra is an ordained, Unity minister currently serving as the spiritual leader of Unity of Livonia in Livonia, Michigan